Dominique

TOFTS

I turned 40 last year.  It’s an age that’s supposed to be a cause for anxiety, denial, and concern, especially for women.  But for me, it was pretty much the opposite of that. Turning 40 was both revelatory and celebratory, in that I slowly came to realize that I have learned, grown, and accomplished quite […]

Let Me Tell You a Story

Once upon a time, JustHusband and I took my family out to see Hidden Figures: my Mom, my Dad, and my Auntie. The five of us piled into my parents’ small car, because the big car wouldn’t start. Auntie, who is just over 6′ tall, sat in the front. JustHusband, who is almost as tall […]

Feelings… nothing more than feelings…

Content note: this post contains some mild swearing. Sorry, Mom! So. Here we are. Just two weeks into DJT’s presidency, and the shit is already hitting the fan.  As I read on Twitter the other day, the U.S had one Black President and white supremacy responded by setting the entire world on fire. But, this post […]

Countdown 

I’ve never believed in making New Year’s resolutions, but I often find myself with vague notions of what I want to do in the coming year.  So, in the interest of getting more specific, here’s my “countdown of goals” for 2017: 10 vacation days needed for JustHusband’s birthday extravaganza. (I’m not saying which birthday it is because I […]

A Failure of Whiteness

In On Choosing Trump and Being Bad, Caleb Crain wrote that his peers …argue that what triumphed on Tuesday was white racism. That strikes me as true. And it also strikes me as true that white workers were acting out of a deep economic grievance on Tuesday. Argument A doesn’t falsify Argument B, in this […]

Wednesday

THIS magazine used to have a feature called “WTF Wednesday”, in which they profiled issues of a particularly f*cked up, “I can’t believe they did that!” variety. Today is a good day to bring back that feature. Not just because I can’t believe the majority of Americans elected Donald Trump for President (quite honestly, there’s a […]

Adventures in Gardenscaping – Update

So, the thing about doing yard work is that it is never-ending. There is ALWAYS something else that needs to be done: move that plant there, dig a hole here, reposition those rocks over there, dispose of the raccoon/cat/squirrel/god-only-knows-where-that-came-from poop in the middle of the flower bed, etc. At some point, though, you just have to put down […]